The word "divorce" conjures up so much for so many right off the bat.
D I V O R C E. Even spelled out, I can feel the pain of divorce. The death of a family. No way around that part. No matter how neatly you try to slice it, no matter how lightly you try to skate over it, it is in essence the death of your family, as you know it. It does not mean that down the road a re-birth can't be had, but for now it is simply what it is...

Married for 23years, I am not divorced. It takes work, work, and more work to stay together. This, I know for sure... so although I am not divorced, I understand feelings of divorce. I am a product of a divorce... and this is the first time I have written about it. Divorce stays with you for all of your life. Like grief, you can move forward, but the dull ache is with you forever. You move forward, but somehow you never forget. I know many people that have gone through it. Both as the "married", and as the "children". When I was a wedding planner, it broke my heart when I would hear that the marriage did not survive. I would think of how happy they once were...I could close my eyes and picture the couple on their wedding day, and then just like that, they became bitter, feuding, hating, not of themselves kind of enemies.

If you are considering divorce, I am asking you to re-consider.

If you are already going through the divorce, come back often as I begin my series on divorce and healing.